a little less kindness.. a little more judgment

Yes, you read the title right….

Unfortunately, as much as I work hard on leading a positive and kind life, I am constantly faced with negativity and judgment.

For as far as I can remember, I have always been judged for who I am, for how I look, for the way I dress, for the way I speak, for my mentality, for my personality, for my capabilities, and for my decision making process. Even my closest friends and family feed off the pleasure of judging every word I speak or every item of clothing I wear.

The result? Low self esteem and much much later in life, the power to turn it all around into an extremely confident, positive, happy life.

Yes, I admit, I used to also be an extremely judgmental person as well during my young adult years, however, I worked hard on myself and learned to keep my mouth shut if it wants to utter unkind words. It is difficult. I am not perfect.

Recently, when trying to be compassionate and empathetic to a friend, I was immediately judged into being an idiot and was kindly advised to mind my own business…. What a disappointing world we have come to. I wasn’t mad or upset by her unkind words, I was rather forced to remind myself that no one will completely understand your intentions but yourself. Trying to help with words has, unfortunately, become a nuisance.

The whole point of this post if you’ve come across it is to NEVER respond to judgment with unkindness. No matter what, it is very important to protect your peace of mind. To do that, always be kind. No matter what, do not mirror negative thoughts, actions, and words.

We all need a little more kindness & and a lot less judgment.

Love

Zee

Focus on the good.

I made a pact to myself.

On the eve of January 01 2019.

I told myself, Zeinab, you need to start focusing on the good

Life, itself, is not worth all this overthinking.

You need to expect the good to receive that goodness.

The very first step to that road: always expect the good from people.

I know it sounds gullible. I know that the world is filled with envy, hate, disappointment, selfishness, and self pity.

But that doesn’t matter. What matters is my perception. My mindset.

Regardless of the outcome. I choose to expect the good. See the good. Understand the good side. Love the goodness in people not matter how diminished.

This year. I will focus on the good.

Are you tired of reading the word good?

I believe it is time to revaluate your mindset.

It will be good for you

I promise

Love,

Zee

What Happened to Zee?

Hey world

SO! I just realized that I haven’t blogged for almost 7 months. Well, the reason behind that is because my partners and I opened our cafe in the Philippines Vintage Brew Cafe on January 20th 2018 and ever since then it has been a rollercoaster. So far, it’s been challenging, mind blowing, humbling, exhausting, amazing, and absolutely fantastic.

The reality is owning a business is not all glamour and wealth. It is hard work, causes mental illness, and extremely exhausting especially when I also hold a very busy full time day job IN ANOTHER COUNTRY. However, I do recommend that anyone with the ability (even the slightest) to hold their ground and own a business. I mean, why not?

Anyways, I will be sharing photos and details of my cafe and might even add a category just for updates and business tips that I learned/would learn along the way. Let me know if you are interested in the comments below!

Otherwise, everything is still the same.

More to come

Love

Zee

Blogging Hiatus

So, for the past few months, I haven’t been blogging much. I had plans to draft many, many posts during the summer break since I wasn’t travelling; however, I did none of that. The first reason behind it was because May & June were extremely stressful months for me. My brain was literally fried. I had a hard time making decisions, thinking straight, and even remembering names!

I needed a break. A break from reading. A break from thinking. A break from planning. Basically anything that required effort. I know, I know, blogging should be easy because it’s my passion… but, come on, it DOES require effort 🙂

The second reason was that I had a hard time even brainstorming. I usually blog from home sitting in bed; now I’m thinking to make it habit of doing it somewhere else. At a cafe or something. So! I need YOUR help! If you have any ideas of how to find my “Zen” space for blogging let me know in the comments below 🙂

Nevertheless, if you feel like taking a break from writing/blogging (or from anything else in your life) then why not? Don’t think too much, it is not worth it.

Cheers 🙂 !

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Think Positive!

I’ve been struggling with positivity for a while now and while people perceive me as an extremely happy and positive person, I could be a little harsh on myself.

Yes, silent competitiveness & the struggle for perfection are two of my bitter-sweet traits and that could lead to negative thoughts. Therefore, I decided that I would live a year of utter positivity commencing May 9 (which happens to be my birthday but that is not my point here).

For 365 days I will:

1- Appreciate everything that will happen and is already going on in my life

2- Be thankful for every single person currently in my life. They are all here for a either a lesson or a blessing and both are appreciable

3- Turn any negative thought into a positive one. No matter what. (because come on, I am human not a robot so negative thoughts are going to come through)

4- Read happy & positive books and articles

5- Help others see the positive side of any downside

6- Avoid negative connotations

7- Dream big. Why not?

Next year, specifically in May 2018, I will share the result of this plan and the impact of utter positivity!

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Love,

Zee

A unicorn’s road to success.. What is yours?

Well, as I’m starting off this blog post, it has no title. The reason is, I don’t want to sound like a motivational speaker. I am sharing what I think my road to success looks like to inspire whoever’s reading this blog post to come up with their own road to where ever they want to go!

We all want be something, reach somewhere, achieve happiness, reach euphoria, and make our lives worth it.

For me, I want to create something that inspires others and makes them smile and be happy. That’s my goal.

To get there, here is what I think I should be (or am!) doing.

  1. Believe: I know this sounds cliche but it is true. I truly think that believing (really really believing without any doubt), we will achieve what I want. I’ve tried it and it always works. The key here is to erase any sort of doubt, insecurity, or mockery of self.
  2. Help others: By doing that, I receive two positive results in return: One, good karma – nuff said – and two, the ability to pay it forward. This chain doesn’t end; trust me.
  3. It is okay to fail: Okay, I added this part to accentuate the fact that there is no such thing as failure. Sure, roadblocks will always be there but failure? No way! It is perfectly fine to cry and whine and feel insecure but after that, I have some cake (or any other comfort food) and move on.
  4. Learn and Read: I Learn from my mistakes and from others. In the past, it was hard for me to learn from my own mistakes but when I say how others looked like while going through the same mistakes I went through, that put my head together. That is good advise. Write that down 🙂
  5. Compare yourself to others: I mean, why not? I know all books and speakers always say do not compare yourself to others but I disagree. We are humans so we will always keep comparing ourselves to other’s successes and achievements. Always. Personally, I do it all the time but in a positive way. The only exception here is the physical comparison. I avoid it at all costs because I am a unicorn obsessed with dream catchers; that’s why 🙂 🙂

So here you go. This is how my road looks like. What does your look like?

Twenty Facts About Me :)

I thought it would be a good time for me to open up to all of you and give you 20 facts about me so the next time you read my blog or “like” my Instagram picture, you’re more familiar with the person behind all that.

  1. I’m a hybrid. Dad is Lebanese & mom is from the Philippines.
  2. I speak 3 languages fluently. Arabic, English, and Tagalog. I am also a beginner in Spanish & French. Honestly speaking, my Tagalog is not fluent but I can converse normally with people. I started learning Spanish few years back by buying books and CDs but I got caught up with life and never continued. It is still on my list though. I was also taught French during middle school and high school as well as in college. However, I have no idea why I never picked up the language fluently (Hint: My teachers were awful).
  3. Nobody has ever guessed my age correctly.
  4. I was born in the Philippines, spent my childhood in UAE, moved to Lebanon when I was 12 then to Qatar in 2012.
  5. I don’t have a favorite color, food, or anything.
  6. I get bored easily.
  7. I am an avid tv series addict. I currently have a list of 30 shows that I watch.
  8. I love helping people even if I dislike the person.
  9. I enjoy reading books & yes, I don’t have a favorite genre.
  10. I have an addiction and its name is Sephora.
  11. I currently work at the American School of Doha as a Senior HR Advisor and I love my workplace (knock-wood).
  12. Food relaxes me. So if you happen to catch me with a bad mood, give me food and I’ll be smiling again like a baby.
  13. I am borderline OCD (Not clinically). I love being organized and can’t function if an issue is not in order inside my brain. I lecture those around me who are messy.
  14. I like collecting stuff. Sunglasses, bags, wallets, makeup, perfumes, scarfs, shoes, and sticky notes. Yes, all that.
  15. I am obsessed with stationery. OBSESSED!
  16. To strangers, I am silent and introverted. However, once I am comfortable with someone, I am the complete opposite. My family & friends call me crazy & weird.
  17. I don’t believe in dieting. It is stressful and life is too short for that.
  18. I LOVE Dream Catchers. If you are not familiar with them, google it.
  19. My most common phrases are: Google it & I’m hungry.
  20. I respect luxury cars. For instance, I give them way on the road because they deserve it 🙂

Want more, maybe next time 😉 It is bed time for me now!

Cheers!

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